Is there really a fine line between the two or are they just totally different concepts? Here’s how I see it. When we’ve been taking care of a child from infancy, we become accustomed to the role of “protector.” When we see a fellow human being in danger we will grab their shirt and pull them back from the curb if we see a bus speeding toward them. Our instinct to protect is primal. It calls us to action. With…..
What if we didn’t feel so embarrassed by, or ashamed of, our mistakes? Surely we didn’t come into this world this way. Our culture is rooted in perfectionism, and we tend to feel shame when we mess up or are responsible for some unhappy situation. We therefore keep secrets. Then those secrets keep us from being genuine in our relationships. Our “fake-ness” leads to fake relationships and we feel miserable, misunderstood, and lonely. The common thought that “If people really…..
It is so much easier to see in others those things that are hard to see in ourselves. After watching the first presidential debate it is easy to see how needing to win will destroy a relationship! Even with the sound turned off, the provocation when one or both parties need desperately to be “Right” causes lasting damage. It’s like a survival mechanism for the ego. The ego gets all disturbed by humility, enemy to the ego. The ego fights to be right,…..
There is possibly nothing lonelier than being in a relationship that has become cold. Most of us are reluctant to take the first step toward closeness, and expect the solution to be hard work. Relationships don’t need to take “work,” or if they do, it’s more like vigilance than actual work. We have to pay attention all of the time, and never intentionally act to hurt our partner. If the relationship takes a ton of work, it probably isn’t the…..
Hi, and welcome! My name is Anette Edens, author of From Monsters to Miracles. I’m so happy to have you as a visitor to my blog about my new book. This project is very special to me, and I hope to share some of that excitement with you here. I’ll be using this blog to interact with you about From Monsters to Miracles, expanding on some of the topics in it and posting on some of the ideas related to my book. This is a great…..